When news broke yesterday that a third royal baby was on the way for William and Kate, social media was awash with messages of congratulations and well wishes for the royal couple. But among the tweets of cheers and felicitations, there were also ones that went like this:
“Don’t they have TVs in the Palace?”
“Do they even know how birth control works?”
“She’s been pregnant for like….4 years straight”
Can someone please tell me how it is acceptable to comment on anyone else’s reproductive choices? Have William and Kate asked for public opinion on whether they should have more children? I guess being “celebrities”, their personal choices/decisions for always up for public scrutiny, but what about the average woman?
How many regular women like you and me, are judged daily for our reproductive choices?
When are you going to settle down?
Are you gonna have a baby soon?
The clock is ticking…
You’re not getting any younger…
And then the flip side of the coin when you’ve had ‘too many’ kids by someone’s random standard:
Are you secretly Mormon?
Trying for a soccer team?
You guys don’t waste any time, do you?
Apart from being incredibly rude and downright hurtful, these types of comments can do a lot of damage because we may not have any idea about what someone is going through in their personal lives, behind the closed doors.
That woman married for 5 years without any children…?; she may be struggling with infertility treatments, trying and failing month after month to have a baby of her own despite mountains of medications.
That couple with their fourth child? Maybe they always wanted a big family after growing up incredibly lonely. Maybe they planned and longed for every child they were blessed with.
You just never know. Which is why, the best thing to do is to always – ALWAYS – mind your own uterus and just keep any comment about someone else’s reproductive choices to yourself.
If in doubt, just keep your mouth closed!